Sunday, May 25, 2008

No, You're Doing It Wrong

Someone named Lu commented over at meno's blog: "Marriage is a hard series of compromises and building briges [sic]". No. It's not. Or, perhaps better said- it's not supposed to be. I don't know what people are thinking, but marriage isn't supposed to be like that.

Everyone is aware that you don't get "do overs" with life- right? Be happy and comfortable in your relationships now, or keep looking. I don't have all the answers, but I'm just sure we're not here to emulate the punishment of Sysiphus



Blogger General Catz said...

Great advice and particularly pertinent to me right now. Thanks.

8:43 AM  
Blogger Andy said...

Amen, Brother Stucco.

10:45 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

keeping looking... yeah, yeah, yeah

11:21 AM  
Blogger Vulgar Wizard said...


2:37 PM  
Blogger Mrs. Chili said...

I remember watching an episode of Mad About You (yeah, yeah - I watched it... shut up) and there was some comment about marriage being "hard work." I looked over at my husband and said "are YOU working hard? Because, really? Not so much with the hard work for me..."

The point is that yes, it IS work. It's work to be open and communicative. It's work to be trustworthy and to trust. It's work to be attentive and careful and thoughtful. It shouldn't FEEL like work, though - it should be something that you do every day without having to put forth effort. BREATHING is work, but how often do we think about THAT?

Does that make any sense whatsoever?

3:07 PM  
Blogger Bob said...

sometimes we love difficult people and the relationship takes work. we can't always choose who we love.

6:06 AM  
Blogger meno said...


Just because you were smart enough to marry Schmoopie....

10:12 PM  
Blogger Scott from Oregon said...

I did that move on a motorcycle once, only at about 60 miles an hour. Luckily, I didn't quite get to the tipping point of this guy (though witnesses claim I was straight up and down).

I am going to bet this guy landed on his feet...

4:10 PM  
Blogger TTQ said...

interesting... I'm only 4 years in but we have yet to have a fight, which doesn't mean we don't disagree. Because we do, sometimes alot. But we have always been able to lay the cards on the table and suck it up (or gleefully laugh and run in circles)

5:13 PM  
Blogger Hammer said...

Marriage is putting your ego aside and learning to give more than you are willing to take.

At least that's what I've learned.

I'm sure its different for everybody.

6:14 AM  
Blogger veleska1970 said...

compromise is a very tricky field to navigate~~because it's so easy to fall into the trap of doing what you really DON'T want to anyway, just to save face and keep the peace.

but i've learned that if you and your sig other have issues that absolutely cannot be resolved at all, then it's time to head for the door.

8:47 AM  

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